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FalconFly
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Here's the background, nothing secret about it :
He asked me ~2 weeks ago if it was okay for him to return to this Forum.
After he apparently did quite well over at VA for about a year, I naturally saw no problem with that, except that I gave him a few requirements and advices to avoid repeating old problems known here in the past.
These were quite simple and still today I'm sure it could have worked out.
Requirements :
- no 'special treatment' from Admin side, regardless of his situation - in essence be a Forum Member like any other
- he has to solve typical issues or small conflicts by himself (like everybody else does)
Advisory :
- initially take a slow and rather low profile approach to avoid reopening old resentiments or reservations by numerous other Users
- reduce or avoid excessive StarWars talk/metaphers, as it was found quite confusing by numerous users including myself from time to time
He agreed and rejoined the Forum a few days later.
Here's what happened, however :
- easily became record poster (posting rate) within days
- at times filled almost the entire Subforum as latest poster all alone
- went into what I call "old scheme" again after 11 days due to a tiny and actually mispercieved critique against him
- started sending me PM asking for support and enforcement of Forum rules that actually did not exist
- before being clearly told that he did not have a valid point and plain overreacted again he had deleted his account
- I therefor responded to his request placed here over at VA via PM (due to his account here gone)
- I made clear that his reaction was uncalled for, did not make any sense and explained him that he bascially busted all requirements and advisory I had given him as prerequisites for successfully participating in this Forum. Additionally, I made it absolutely clear that he would not get any 'special support' from me
- After a short exchange of PM, however, he insisted and elaborated that I woudn't do my Admin job right by denying him a special status
- As he refused to accept the plain facts or any other argument I gave him, I did the only thing left to do : make a clean cut and ban him for lifetime.
Lessons learned :
- even if he's a nice & good guy by default, the sad fact remains that he remains too unstable for continued, trouble free participation
- he makes all attempts to get and enforce special Admin protection and support, which I have to absolutely deny (I tried that last time and it did not work out, and believe me, I tried hard)
In short :
I offered him an easy deal and he busted it hard, even after me camly trying to talk better sense into him (go find an Admin busy with other things in life who does that - after all that already happened).
I still don't have anything against him, in my books he remains a good guy.
However, when I'm forced to choose between fair Forum rules with good trouble-free experience for everyone and the special private (time-intensive) support of a single person... I know what my choice has to be.
I knew this could have potentially happened anytime but I and Co-Admin were surprised just how fast things deteriorated this time.
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I think that this covers the last 2 weeks out of my perspective in a nutshell.
Others that Obi contacted via PM will have more details, of course it is left to them whether they elaborate about it or keep that private.
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